It seems to me that true and faithful friendships are hard to find nowadays. The thing that I find strange about that, is that it is exactly what people crave. Us, as human people, we desire good, true, and loyal friendships. I don’t think I know anyone who has ever said, “I just want a basic, no trust, no commitment, friendship.” No, because that’s not what people want. If I had a list qualities that I would want in the friendships around me I would put: trust, caring, honesty, reliable, auntentic, vulnerable, fun, closeness, one that pushes the other person to be greater, and etc. etc. I really could go on and on.
As I have gotten older, I have realized how important true friendships are. Having brothers and sisters in your life to encourage you and walk with you, is so incredibly important. – But that’s not what I always wanted.
When I was younger, through most of elementary, middle school, and parts of high school, what I wanted the most was just to be in the “popular” crowd. I wanted so desperately to fit in and to be friends with all those people. Then somewhere around the time of my sophomore year, I realized that those aren’t the people I wanted to hang out with. They weren’t the type of people who kept loyal friendships or who were the most honest or caring. A lot of the time they would be gossiping about other people, and getting themselves into some things that weren’t really good. I realized that I didn’t want to have to fake a friendship.
I wanted it to be real.
So I decided to forget the desire of being “cool and popular”, and decided that I wanted to search out real and authentic friendships. Sophomore me really didn’t know what that looked like practically, but overtime I found it. I first found it with my best friend Alyssa. She definitely was a big blessing that God sent me when I asked Him to provide me with a REAL and FAITHFUL friendship. We’ve known each other since we were in preschool, but it was during that time that our friendship blossomed. She became my best friend and she still is today. What I found was that the relationships that hold best are ones rooted in faith. I can have so many friends who aren’t in the faith, and those are great friendships.
But it’s those friends who are in their faith that I have a deeper rooted friendship with. Those people become your brothers and sisters.
“The friendship that can cease has never been real.”
– St. Jerome
A huge time of when I really got a taste of true friendship, true brotherhood and sisterhood, was when I served as a missionary with NET Ministries. They put me onto a team with 12 other people. Six men and six women. These people became some of the closest friends of mine. We chose to continually seek out friendship, we sought out to love each other as Christ has taught us, we were open with each other, we reconciled with each other if we ever needed to, and we knew that we all had each other’s back. We knew that we had each other’s best intentions in mind.
I honestly wish that everyone could have the experience of a true and faithful friendship. Those relationships and friendships have been the biggest blessings in my life. The people around you will mold you, make sure they are helping by molding you into the masterpiece that God created you to be.
“Fly from bad companions as from the bite of a poisonous snake. If you keep good companions, I can assure you that you will one day rejoice with the blessed in Heaven; whereas if you keep with those who are bad, you will become bad yourself, and you will be in danger of losing your soul.”
Scripture verse: Sirach 6:14-16
Song stuck in my head: Create in me – Rend Collective